We have observed many times how rich we would be if we had a nickel for every time a guy blows it with a single girl - even after a successful first date. Typically, men become over-anxious in the romance department. The first date goes well. She seems interested. He starts calling her to get together too often and coming on too strong. She senses he is too serious and wants a relationship too soon. Boom, she's turned off, and he is down the road. In other words, you can't let up for a minute.
As the dating continues, you must continue to apply every principle we discussed in the section on improving your image to meet, attract, and seduce single women. Be elusive, mysterious, hard to get, exciting - everything.
Tip #1 - Seeing a single girl that you have just started dating, more than once a week is pushing it. Any more than once, and you may be appearing overly anxious. Even if she is the one calling you and initiating the effort to see you more often, don't. If she is calling you, then you are in the driver's seat. Play hard to get and make her work for your time. She'll appreciate you more when she has it. And don't feel guilty about turning her down. Simply say, "I'd love to but I'm busy tonight." No more explanation should be given. Let her sweat it out. It is important that when you turn her down, you express the fact that you definitely want to do things with her, but you are just too busy with prior obligations to see her that night.
Tip #2 - Never hang on the phone for hours as if you have nothing better to do. Call, be pleasant, get the purpose of the call over, and excuse yourself.
Tip #3 - Flowers and small gifts, candlelight dinners, and romantic notes and cards are all great touches. Small in the time and money it takes, but large in their effect. It is important that all of these are out-of-the-blue and a surprise to her. For Example: Sneak over to her house and leave flowers and a note at her door. Again, use these romantic touches, but do so sparingly so that you don't come on too strong.
Tip #4 - Use imagination for your meetings - not just the same old date. Go for walks in the rain. Have picnics in the park. Go to showings of old classic movies, etc. Above all, do anything that is romantic.
Tip #5 - The easiest way to impress a single girl is not with talk of your athletic prowess, financial wizardry, or social stature, but rather a simple compliment like, "You are dressed beautifully tonight." Make sure that you say it at the right time so that it doesn't look like you are just trying to give her a line.
For Example: Give her a compliment just as you are walking away from her at the end of the evening, or just as you pick her up to go out. Say it with the proper tone - as if you were commenting on a beautiful painting, not as if you were fishing for a return compliment or hoping to get her in bed. Don't come off being romantically mushy, or like her new puppy dog panting at her side.
Tip #6 - If a single girl ever blocks advancing the relationship by saying, "No, let's just be friends," say, "No, I have lots of friends. See you later." By continuing this type of relationship, you portray yourself as someone who has nothing better to do than hang around with a girl who is not that interested in you. The relationship will never get to where you want to go - to bed for some romance, passion, and sex. And even if by some miracle the relationship did advance to the bedroom, she would be doling out sex - dictating the where, when and how much. If she wants to cut you off at any time, she can and you have to accept it because that is the implied agreement from the start. She is in complete control, hence, she will never be satisfied with you.
If, on the other hand, you walk away from this relationship, you have established that you are the type used to leading a relationship, you have plenty of other girls willing to take you on your terms, and she is losing out. We have seen cases where a man will completely turn around the relationship as soon as a girl sees that he is willing to "walk" rather than accept something that is not on his terms.
Tip #7 - When do you give up on a girl? When do you decide that a relationship is not advancing? When you are the only one making an effort to keep it advancing. If she is not putting energy in to you, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. Don't stay where you're not appreciated. If this situation does occur, try to figure out why. How did she perceive you? What turned her off? Learn from your mistakes.
At this point, if you've done your homework, if you've stayed on your toes and maintained control, you will be moving on to a sexual relationship. Now you are really going to be judged. The next chapter is devoted to making sure that you are a complete success with single women as a lover.
